SELF
Being a productive individual is a life long journey and seems tough enough as it is; without concrete preparations, plans and stability, one’s life could become unproductive and monotonously driven which in time would lead to depression.
Self is a life long friend with an enormous taste for needs, wants and gratification. Self is a place, a state of being. Without self, one refuses to exist. Without self, one lives like the night and the day. Self is you, self is me.
You’ve got to create a productive personality for yourself, before you can effectively create a productive personality for someone else: in plain words, you’ve got to be a winner to make someone else win. It’s the 1st stage of creating a productive self that is the most crucial stage of all, from this stage other self stages are birth.
God explains the Best Trail to a productive self perfectly in Proverbs 3:5-6
5 Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
6 In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.
To trust the Lord completely, its got to be a selfless act, a willingness to want the best and go for the best in God. You’ve got to lay aside your wants, and thoughts and trust Him to lead you completely. Lets look at 3 Self’s and analyse their life long trail’s…
SELF 1
This is the Proverb 3:5-6 way. This is the God Trail. This is the self-less way. God first in all your plans, then He leads you, and this is the best way to great success.
Joshua 1:8 explains this Best explicitly;
8 This Book of the Law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may observe and do according to all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall deal wisely and have good [a]success.
- Joshua 1:8 This is the only place in the early English versions where the word “success” is found. The secret of success is given in verses 5 through 9. Joshua accepted Moses’ place of leadership without misgivings. God’s will for him was his will, and he did not hesitate. To go “all out” for God was already habitual with him; it is the unfailing prerequisite of eternal success (Deut. 6:3-5; Ps. 1:1-3; Luke 10:25-28).
THIS IS THE BEST WAY.
As a teen parent or parent to be, understanding who you are in God and His plans for you is key to successful parenting. Do you know God? Do you understand His plans for you? True and lasting Success lies in God; false success just lasts for a time. For your children to live and have great productive lives, they’ve got to see and live with great productive parents. Why? They become what they see. As a teen mum/dad, you become easily depressed when you are confronted with the fear of tomorrow, the challenge of freedom, and the challenge of excellence: you feel look down the road in a couple of years and try to envision what you would become, and then you think your life may just be in a mess. Look into the Bible, understand God, He knows you by name and has a great plan and future mapped out for you. You want to live a great life, this self trail is the best way.
SELF 2
This is the Me, Myself, I and God later trail where all the world, your needs and achievements center around you first. 
This is shown in the decisions you make. You are not really bothered about how your actions affect people who love you or care about you. This is one of the selfish trails, and is an unproductive self trail: God is considered last and self first
Philippians 2:3 explains this better;
3Do nothing from factional motives [through contentiousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends] or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves].
SELF 3
This is the Me, Myself and I only self trail. No God involved. This is the second self
ish trail.
James 4:4 explains this better;
4-6You’re cheating on God. If all you want is your own way, flirting with the world every chance you get, you end up enemies of God and his way. And do you suppose God doesn’t care? The proverb has it that “he’s a fiercely jealous lover.” And what he gives in love is far better than anything else you’ll find. It’s common knowledge that “God goes against the willful proud; God gives grace to the willing humble.”
The success achieved in this trail only lasts a while.
New Topics for Teen mums and dads coming up soon;
- God’s kind of Success
- How to care for a child with a disability
- Bring up your child God’s way
- Freedom From Depression (2)
TBOYB 
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